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attention-seeking
Behavior. This is like
good things to know and
understand, I was checking out a website about this called fairy. Well mind.com, a lot of people.
Want and like, attention, look, do you get some people that are just shy and just want to blend in? You know, they exist. The not a lot of them to be honest with you. But do you remember them, two kids in high school? I'd always be friends with those kids in high school like they didn't want to talk to anybody or whatever the kind of real shy, but there's some people there very few.
Most people kind of want that attention. Sometimes it's caused by low self-esteem, sometimes it's caused by loneliness. Sometimes caused by jealousy. This website said little kids do it, and that's not, it's not unhealthy, for little kids to want some attention, right? You have to worry about it, that kind of their kind of growing and seeing what the boundaries are in the world. So that's cool. There's some actual disorders.
History. Onic personality disorder. This is under the cluster of dramatic personality disorder disorders. These are people that crave attention, their fixated on their appearance, their emotional, their dramatic. They need constant validation
There's borderline, personal personality disorder, is another dramatic personality disorder and this is the people that think everyone is out to get them and they're in an unstable relationships and they have low self-esteem and they have low self-image and they have intense bursts of anger and they might even harm themselves, they have impulsive behavior. So these are all things that fall into this attention seeker and there's also narcissistic personality disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder and
intermittent explosive disorder. So there's a bunch of legitimate psychological problems that people can have. That is an extreme version of seeking attention.
But I'm I don't want maybe we'll cover that at some point, but that's not what I that's not what, why I was thinking about this. I was thinking about it for just normal people.
And actually wanting to get attention seeking.
under control for normal people, and I there was just an interesting list on, on this website that
I thought it would be smart to cover because I think it is a good thing to know and understand to make sure that you can keep them in mind. So that if we, if I am attention-seeking, I know
what I know what I'm doing and then I can stop doing it because here's the thing about this, when you're seeking
attention, everybody knows it. That's
that's the there's a scary horrible
thing about being a
A person is, when you're not aware of what's Happening, you're not aware of what you're doing. And most horrible is when you think other people can't see what you're doing that to me, is one of the worst disorders, just general disorders. You know, the person that thinks they're getting away with something and they're not, they think they're going to say something, they you you always like to use the example of name dropping it because it's, you know, something that people do
and no, they think that no one notices, that you just drop the name, but everybody sees it and everybody thinks the same thing.
All your name, dropping trying to impress me with something stupid. So it's good that you bring that up because
that's something that anybody could think you need to do. Right. You think you need to do it. Yeah.
You don't need to do it and everybody knows when you're doing. So here's some of these things that they
Put on this
list, posting
excessively on social media vying for likes and comments.
Interesting. Yeah, right.
Gotta watch out for that one. If you find yourself like constantly wanting to just get on there.
This is seems like an angel could post. Yeah. All right. I'll do this.
Making comments online and in-person that seemed calculated to make people feel uncomfortable. I was a little weird for me. I don't quite understand that one.
Maybe it's because making
people feel uncomfortable, makes that people pay attention to you. Yeah.
This one's obvious bragging about material wealth, physical appearances, and personnel, personal successes.
And that's one, there's nothing worse. You know what I mean? And man, how
much of social media, there's like a legitimate. If you put a pie chart of
social media and
one of the slices of pie was
bragging about material wealth, bragging about physical appearance, and bragging, about personal success. There would be a, there would be at least a slice of pie. Yes, sir. Maybe even a
A big piece, I believe that, yes
quarter.
Quarter, I wouldn't be surprised but then again that could be just queued with the people I follow because in my experience I would say, yeah quarter, cool. Yeah, that
water scene, right?
Is there any way to post a picture
of you and your freaking car? Your new car that and it's an expensive car. Yeah, real. Nice guy. Luxury car,
is there any way to post a picture of your luxury car
and not fall into this category?
That's a good.
That's a good question. Doesn't it kind of seemed no. Like almost like it depends on the person's personality because like there is an actually, is there a difference between
Sharing your happiness with your followers. Like what? You know? Like most people aren't influencers, they're just normal people. It's a
huge line on this. Is it really your car?
Yeah. So guys and people
that have badass cars and they love cars and they're like, yeah, I guess got this badass car. And I don't even, I don't even consider that to be bragging or whatever,
I considered to be 0. This dude's loves cars. That's what else.
He's saying and you're stoked. Yeah. Just like you know when someone graduates college or high school or yeah, or gets her online degree. Whatever. Like they're just so happy, they're sharing it with people. You know, their friends really are not influences, you know, unless the most people they don't have, they're not influencers this normal people. So it depends on that guy's face. Oh, that person's personality. They get a new car. It's like oh my God. You know how you don't know. You see this where it's like yeah. Oh my daughter, finally turned 16 and got her driver's license like are they bragging because everybody gets a driver like it's just happy they're not bragging.
They're just happy, you know? Okay, so that it could be that most of the time, they'll kind of like, are you kind of hinted there? Like
you can smell it? Oh yeah. You could
see what they're doing. If you rented a car and you're photographing
it, that's different. That's kind of, that's kind of,
that's like a another level that's bragging, about personal success, or accomplishment at the same time, lying about you. Yeah, so watch out for this one.
Because you might be generally genuinely stoked about
something. Yeah, we might be kind of bragging and
you got to be careful. Just make sure Manchester just pay attention
to it. I'm trying to think of what I've pulled, if I posted something that's been what I posted.
Okay. So, then again, again, I don't know, I can't read your mind, but this is and math. This actually shouldn't even say because I don't want to come off. Like I'm accusing people who have done this of doing this, but in a, you know, how, like, you know, you great books. So if it does good on Amazon, you post like,
Oh my gosh. Thank you. And you say, thank you guys for listening, but or is there a little little, sprinkle of that bragging, that you got that passed dollar, you know. Like I know the thing is, I don't know, but as far as actions go that's one of them. That's one of the action for. I don't know your mindset. So I don't know if that that really is that but that's one of the
actions for sure. Like that's a that's a definite one. Like
hey she just made the bestseller list again your yeah. Well thank you guys for 100,000 subscribers. So these are
I want to
look. These are kind of humble brags, right? Yes, a mall
Bragg's though. But and then again, I don't know. Because there is there is a very specific difference between someone sharing their happiness about something whether they accomplished it or somebody it's not bragging, they're sharing their happiness, you know, to like they're people, I ate depends, man, it's hard. It's hard to give. Yeah, that's the thing with this is I think you will know. Yeah. That, you know what I'm saying? You know, what you're doing? And like I said, like I said, you could a lot of times, I don't know, but a lot of times it feels like you.
Good kind of smell it on him, or if someone else does it you can be like, I see what you're doing. Cool, congratulations. But I do see that you're bragging, or if it's genuine usually there's some pattern of, you know, genuineness or whatever. So you like all, you know like congratulations your daughter, got her license or whatever, you know, or you got a sick
car good? Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Hell yeah. That's a sick car. Yeah. Got a sick guitar.
Yeah, there's a
freak out in the hunting world, right in a hunting world. People freak out about that Ebola like posting
pictures of their killed. Yep. Yeah. Is that bragging? Usually, I feel like that's legit right in. Fuck you, you went out because a lot of times you don't catch nothing, right?
There's a lot of times.
Yeah. Like so my younger brother got to heat. He's a spear fish yet. He's really good. He probably cut this 70 pound fish one time. I feel what kind huge he was like legendary status
Anyway, and so anyway, I he would post stuff that he catches lobsters like all this stuff and just, you know, just like in his little community of other guys who do that. I never saw that as like
Bragging about personal success, it's more like, yeah. Like it's almost like it's a legitimate brag where you should be bragging, you know, like that's the whole reason you go out. You got some success freaking post that shit sort of feels like so let's just be careful. Yeah.
Okay, we'll walk away with that. Let's be careful about material wealth, physical appearances, and personal success.
Just be careful. It's a warning, right? It's a be cognizant,
let's say you do it
but you're not always like becomes habitual, right? Like, you're doing it all the time and maybe you're doing it. Reading the comments rights to be careful of it. Next one is acting like everything that happens is a, that is a little excerpt of what we are doing on the Jocko underground podcast. So if you want to continue to listen,
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