#363: Tea Time with Tim — How to Find Mentors, Decrease Anxiety Through Training, and Much More

The question isn't, 'How do I get a mentor?' The question is, 'How can I encourage people I aspire to be like, and are 10-30 years ahead of me, to respect me and want me to succeed?'

Everyone is fighting battles we know nothing about.

You don't develop confidence in a vacuum; you develop confidence by systematically exposing yourself to discomfort and things that you think are just outside of your capabilities.

Two good metrics to assess how your life is going: How peaceful are you when you go to bed, and how excited are you when you wake up in the morning?

Instead of trying hard to pick projects to work on, aim to develop skills and relationships that transcend any one narrow area of specialty.

The way you overcome stress is not by expecting that on game day you’ll be able to summon the self-talk that's going to be 100x more effective than your self-talk in the past; it’s by rehearsing what you fear.

Failures can offer you tremendous opportunities.

Tim's advice for helping to better understand your partner's (and everyone else's) emotions.

We do not rise to the level of our expectations; we fall to the level of our training.

Hope is not a strategy.

If I have a pain or problem, or if I have a desire or goal, I assume it's very likely that many other people have the same pains, problems, desires, or goals.

Instead of trying to save the world, look at how you can help yourself.

I realized in the last 5-10 years that my ultimate nightmare would be dating a long-haired version of myself.

Tim explains how you should structure an email when reaching out to a potential mentor.

I look for low-cost tests with limited downside that I can throw out into the world to see what happens—to see what sticks and what doesn't.